Transparenting Life Tools

Transformational
Inner-Dirrected Optimal Learning
Through
Inner Home Alchemy & Home LIfe Prosperity

Inner Motivational Skills
Inner Home Alchemy: Our hearts have many walls around them - that we have created for our own protection.
At one time we may have needed that wall or thought that we did, however now we have a choice.
These walls have pictures on them of the moment we decided that we needed that wall.
As we see it for what it was - our idea of protection at the time - then our pictures become windows into our own healing.
And as we understand how to take steps forwards in our lives to allow our visions to fly, the window becomes a doorway.

Interdependent Collaboration Skills
Home LIfe Prosperity: We can choose to know that every "problem" has its own solution within it
that we are being asked to grow towards and there is our healing... revealing.
As we learn to make the best of all that comes - we begin to notice that there are no mistakes and that we can open any door in our hearts
as we do it with love - togtether TEACHING MOMENTS arise and we hear the call to witness or offer insight to a friend in time of need.
Interdependent Collaboration Skills allow us to hold the keys that unlock all doors - a good place to being start with t he letter A for
7 Co-Creation Communications Concepts.

All the Transparenting Tools below are based on these concepts...
"cosmic loopholes" if you will, allowing visions to fly.


7 Co-Creation Communication Concepts:

1. A-bun-dance

First symbolized in the breast & other basic needs being met without having to fight or have a fit to get it. In essence, it's trust that there's more than enough to go around and that those in charge will be fair - this is how we learn to share and how we come to know how to love in a healthy way. Think of it as a joyful dance - a-bun-dance that is an expression of fully knowing a love of life. Knowing that our own essence and the essence of all those around us is infinite - and that keeps us knowing that all our hearts are connected.
This is love - the essence of who we are and the way we show those we love who they are as well.

2. Appreciation

Simple joy for being alive comes from gratitude just for being in each other's life. Gratitude brings joy and this comfort brings with it a simple knowing that everything works out. Feeling gratitude always makes everything easier and puts others more at ease and able to do more for you
because you appreciate them for it.

3. All-One

Knowing that we are all from the same source - that our hearts are connected and we are all-one is what can help to feel calm about life. Knowing how to calm ourselves down and remain centered in all situations is one of the most things to learn in a life time. Humor that is kind - Divine Comedy - is the best tool for heart connection and gives us a way to center in the hardest of circumstances. If we can find a funny perspective when facing difficulties we will always lighten our load and the loads of all those around us and that is a real gift. Knowing that we are all-one - that everything is one - is an answer to all questions and those who understand this are always welcome and find doors opening for them at every turn -
people just want to be around you because you help out with good energy.

4. Acceptance

Allowing what we want to come to us comes from accepting that we are who we are. That we allow others to be as they are.
That we want to attract more of what we want into our lives than focus on what we don't want. When we accept this as true,
we let go of all the painful understandings that keep us from our peace and choose acceptance of what is. Once we do this we are free to attract what we would like. It sounds like a contradiction and in a way it is - many truths in life are. If you love someone set them free.. and if you love yourself -
set yourself free from the past - be here now - and then attract your future from a place of love.


5. Apologies

Knowing how to forgive is huge in finding peace. At times it is not possible to receive apologies from others who have hurt us and we hold on to this thinking the apology has to come from them. Or perhaps we feel that what the person did was so awful that it can not be forgiven. And even if they have apologized we may want to keep that person apologizing because we won't accept that they have changed. There are many excuses for not allowing forgiveness.. and one huge reason for letting them off the hook - so to speak - you set yourself free.
The forgiveness is really for you - so that you can move on and know the peace in your heart that you deserve. And perhaps the relationship will heal and that's good - yet even if they never understand how you have grown in forgiveness - you will have grown and that's its own reward. The deepest forgiveness is gratitude - as we see our sacred contracts with others we can thank them for the lessons they came into our lives
to make sure we learn what we came here to learn.


6. Agreements

Learning consideration comes from being considered, both in voice & feelings - so this is very important in raising children - to let them know they are considered. Having them be part of negotiations allows them to go out into the world and negotiate for what they would like to co-create. Yet just as important as making agreements is knowing how to flow with these agreements. Life is an ever-changing experience and many times re-negotiations may need to made again. Through it all our hearts remaining connected is the goal - at all times and especially if die-agreements come up. Keeping our agreements is huge when in comes to living our integrity and we need to keep communicating to find what's best for all concerned because that may change. Negotiation only really work out when both people really want the other to be happy. Otherwise "Hard Negotiators" ("I get 3 - you get 1 and you should be happy you get some.") create unfair deals that hurts everyone - especially themselves - although they may not realize this - until eventually - if they are fortunate - they do. When it is clear that this kind of deal hurts the "Hard Negotiator" even more than the one they are trying to take advantage of - the world will see the value of living in peace and keeping our hearts connected is the practical application of that peace. This understanding will be what makes the meek inherit the Earth - because everyone will begin to know the value of really caring about themselves and knowing peace inside themselves - as much as knowing peace with everyone. Then doing what is best for all concerned becomes more natural and agreements - even through they may change over time - are kept in a way where everyone feels good about them.


7. Always Checkin' in

We have all heard of The Golden Rule: "Do unto others as you would have other do unto you." However we have seen many conflicts that arise when we are treating someone the way we would like to be treated - yet that's not how they wish to be treated. So this rule needs to be amended with the co-creation principle of "Checkin' In" so that all our hearts remain connected. Fairness starts with taking turns in sharing, making graceful transitions when we need to be alone, and no matter what - being considerate of other's needs as well as our own. The best way to show this is through regularly "checkin' in" to make sure that our hearts feel connected and that agreements still feel good or if the need to be changed - that it be done thoughtfully and as soon as possible in consideration of those involved with changes. Change is the one thing that is certain - and this is why
we continually keep growing - that is why we are here.



The inspiration for these Transparenting Tools and Concepts
first came from 2 things...

 Raising an Iguana into a Buddha - gentle and kind to all - proving that love is stronger than instincts &
by watching the old Kung Fu TV Show - Daily.

While watching the meaningful multi-layer TV show re-runs I kept asking myself two questions:

#1 What would it be like if we were all raised by enlightened monks?
And this lead me to so much joy - just in that thought...

so I continued with...

#2 What if those enlightened monks lived inside of us?

Enlightened parents if you will... transcendental and wise - our inner Mother & Father
nurturing & caring for our inner child - and guiding us towards the skills of our calling.

This show was a good place to start to give me an image of what a parent can do
to develop a humble yet empowered person who is resilient in all situations
and knows how to lead with gratitude and love.
A parent who allows their child to explore their world and only gives guidance
when it is needed (for safety) or when it is asked for.
Then, when an answer is offered it still is framed as their choice and
they are told to follow their heart and intuition
and told that they will know what's best to do because they are wise and to trust that -
empowering them to see themselves as "vision questing" through life.
As we share this walk - enjoying all the fun ways to explore this growing adventure we call life.

Out of this questioning, 2 focuses of transparenting came to be..

Inner Home Alchemy


Inside we all have an "Inner Child"
as many experts have pointed out.
Yet what about our "Inner Mother" and
"Inner Father" to nurture and guide
our "Inner Child"?
Before we can help anyone else
we first begin with ourselves.

JOYFUL SELF CULTIVATION OF SELF-CARE
THAT ALLOWS AN EASE
ON THE PATH CULTIVATING OUR GIFTS -
THROUGH INNER DIRECTION TO INNER DISCIPLINE

BUILDING SELF-ESTEEM THROUGH
CONNECTING TO OUR INNER MOTIVATION
TOWARDS OUR HIGHEST CALLINGS
& BEING THERE FOR OTHERS ALONG THE WAY
WITH COMMUNITY BUILDNG.

AHH!: Accessible Healthy Happiness
& Cosmic Loopholes to more fun.

The Art of Co-Creation

Co-Creating Prosperity

3 steps to Co-Creating:
Soulmates & Life Callings  

Wisefaith

Reframing our past

A Letter Writing Process:
For Healing Relationship Pain

Sacred City Living:
Urban Vision Questing

3 M's: Motivation, Meditation & Manifestation

A Prayer Treatment Outline

Secrets of Prosperity

Mood Balancing for:
Depression/Bi-Polar/ADD &
Addictive Behaviors

Healing ourselves happens on a mental,
emotional, physical, and spiritual level -
we need to balance all
of these in the healing process.


Foodcool
A "Live-it" Guide

Self Care Concepts

Peace or germs?

Instead of fighting a war with antibiotics
and other "bomb" oriented methods that leave a war-torn body behind. Think of it as throwing a party and inviting all your cool friends (your Sphere of A-bun-dance of all t that's healthy for you) while you stand in the center and choose which to focus on when so that the ones who crashed the party -
don't want to stay anymore and just leave.

For more info check out:
Aliah's Current Wellness Research

THE PATH TO ENLIGHTENMENT... HAS MANY EXPRESSIONS AND YET IS ALWAYS ABOUT PEACE.

DEEPER & DEEPER LEVELS OF RELAXATION & QUICKER & QUICKER RETURNS BACK TO CENTER -
UNTIL WE STAY IN CENTER MORE & MORE & LIFE IS MORE & MORE JOYFUL.

It takes a while to get there - yet we are here to grow towards it.
The reason for it all is to grow... it is why we are here...
and why we love... to grow.
It is best to find a creative outlet for this fear that can bring it back to love.
If there is no resolution possible with the person where there was a disconnect -
another person with similar energy will come to you to find resolution
inside yourself. And when you are creative you have an outlet
to continually make reconnections for yourself.

AND always there is prayer - when you pray you raise your vibration -
same with humor that is kind and allows us to feel connected.
And also, giving to others - especially kids - what you did not have
- is one of the best ways to heal it.

BLESSINGS & APPRECIATIONS: BLESSING FOR WHAT WE DON'T UNDERSTAND & APPRECIATIONS FOR WHAT WE DO.

Home Life Prosperity


These concepts are not
just for those
who have children.
We all parent each other..
loved ones, friends, co-workers.
How do we do it in a way that really helps someone
to help themselves?

JOYFUL SELF CULTIVATION OF
INTERDEPENDENT COMMUNITY BUILDING SKILLS

7 transparenting steps
to being out of the way...

9 Transparenting Ways
of joining hands

The Art of Disarming The Bully
(within & around us)

The Art of Co-Creative Communication

Inner Discipline
VS. Outer Discipline

Earning Points/Gold Star Behavior
 & Upgrades
Living rewards - inspiring and supporting
Inner-Disipline

"Checking In"
is the essence of
"Interdependent Relationships"
through healthy
& fair negotiating.


In our relationships we all have a pattern:
connection * disconnection * reconnection
this is the cycle of our growth through love. |

If there is a disconnect and no reconnection afterwards then fear fills a little bit of our psyche -
this fear builds on this lack of reconnection and this begins to build up over time and make patterns -
so we can see the pattern and eventually grow through
finding resolutions when conflicts arise in a peaceful way.

TRANSPARENTING IN A LEADERSHIP ROLE:
When one is looking out for what is best for all concerned
than it is best to reward people for telling the truth -
then they won't need to lie.

OUR WHOLE COURT SYSTEM IS TO FIND OUT WHO IT TELLING THE TRUTH...
AND SO MANY JUST HAVE THE MONEY TO GET LAWYERS TO LIE FOR THEM.
THERE IS VERY LITTLE TRUTH TELLING IN THE COURT SYSTEM...
IT IS ALL HOW YOU CAN MANIPULATE THE LAW.

HOWEVER, it goes much deeper...
did you know that
1 out of every 100 Americans is in Jail?

It costs apx. 265K a year for them to stay there... and they do this to
"protect us" while our schools treat students like prisoners... we can see it is very possible they might end up there... if we do not see that we are raising people to go against their own best interests that leads to their calling - and then are punishing them for it.

As we stop punishing people and understand that there are good reasons for bad behavior and although it does not justify why anyone would harm another or themselves - it does explain it.

As we embrace people with love and support for finding a creative self expression and contribution - interdependently by simply knowing that they do want what is best for themselves and making sure all disconnects (even when not spoken out loud and just felt) find reconnection with the endless explanations for what one has been through - until they realize that the forgivness does not mean the other person did not do something that was against your spirit and best interest and if it is done to"help you" - it can get very confusing as to what is good for us or not.

PUNISHMENTS ONLY MAKE FOR MORE CRUELTY - WE NEED TO TRANSFORM PEOPLE NOT FURTHER HURT THEM WITH PUNISHMENTS WHEN OUT GREATEST THINKERS MAY BE IN JAIL AND CAN DO NOTHNG TO HELP THE PLANET TO MOVE FORWARD - THIS IS SO MUCH WASTED POTENTIAL...
OUR GREATEST RESOURCE IS OUR ABILITY TO GROW.

WE NEED TO TEACH PEACE.... WE CAN NOT CONTINUE TO LEARN FOR THE INDUSTRIAL AGE WHERE EVERYONE IS A REPLACABLE COG IN A WHEEL. WE ARE ALL UNIQUE WITH AN IMPORTANT PEICE TO ADD OF OUR PEACE - TO SHARE WITH THE WORLD THROUGH THE INTERNET
IN THE INFORMATION AGE OF PEACE
WHERE THERE IS ENOUGH FOR ALL TO HAVE A VOICE.

Contact Aliah with your questions about
Transparening Tools, Trainings, or Playshops -
as well as
Individual Consulting
& Quantum Learning Sessions.

In other words, transparenting could be understood with a sense of humor (and humor is so important) as:
"An enlightened cave person's approach to Peacelderhood".

{Peacelders (proposed 10th Enneagram?)
are ones who are living "whole earth tribe" ideals
and see humanity as one whole
family, all connected in our
human-ness and are the
keepers of peaceful ways.}

We are all co-creating peace on earth
one person at a time- so reach out and be there for some one, yet do it in a "transparenting" way by allowing them to help themselves.

Then ask them to "Pay It Forward"
to 3 people who need helping
change their lives.
This comes from the movie called:
Pay It Forward
(Although Master Po
offers the idea to Grasshopper
in an eposide of the old KUNG FU. )
Pay It Forward is a story of a teacher who asked his students to come up with a real way of helping the world every year -
very few students even do the assignment.
This year the lead character does the Pay It Forward and it spreads...
and it begins to change the world.
This film comes highly recommended -
and now there's a foundation
www.payitforwardfoundation.org
- built on the movie's concept.

It's all about peace!
And peace is all about
"how" we go about
co-creating peace.

AND PEACE IS COMING...
THE INFORMATION AGE OF PEACE
WILL ALLOW ALL TO OFFER THEIR GIFTS.
THEIR PIECE of OUR PEACE.

Developing your intuition can be best developed by actively responding to opportunities for Creativity & Comedy.

EXPRESSIVE ARTS OFFER HEALING THAT'S FUN! & OFFER
COMMUNITY BUILDING TOOLS & OFFER A VOICE TO ALL.

FREEDOM, LIBERTY, & JUSTICE
IS AS WE UNDERSTAND THAT
INTERDEPENDENCE FOR ALL.
IT IS BEST FOR EVERYONE &
THE CARE OF OUR PLANET TOO.

HONOR YOUR MUSE BY BEING AMUSING -
TO YOURSELF & FINDING OTHERS WHO ARE AMUSED BY YOU -
LET KIND COMEDY BRING PEACE ON EARTH
THANK YOU FOR YOUR INTREST IN TRANSPARENTING
WE GIVE THANKS TO GOD & SYNCHRONICITY THAT BRINGS
A LIFE OF KINDNESS.

FORGIVNESS IS FOR YOU TO MOVE ON
- NOT TO JUSTIFY CRUEL BEHAVIORS...
BUT STILL WE ARE NOT OUR BEHAVIORS...
SO FORGIVE THE PERSON AND HEAL THE BEHAVIORS IN YOURSELF FIRST... AND OTHERS WILL SHOW UP TO ALLOW YOU TO HEAL FROM YOUR PAST... IN THE PRESENT.

SO WE CAN MAKE FLASHBACKS FOR THOSE WE CARE
FOR THAT ARE ONES TO HEAL THEM AS WELL IN THE FUTURE.

INNER MOTIVATION
IS WHAT LEADS US TO OUR CALLING...
OUR INTUTION
& GUIDANCE FROM ABOVE.
WHEN OTHERS AROUND US HONOR OUR NEED TO LISTEN TO OUR INNER CALLINGS...
WE SEEK TO ALLOW OTHERS TO DO THAT AND TO BE COMFORTABLE... AND THEN WE FIND MANY WAYS TO WORK TOGETHER - WE ARE IN AN FULFILLING INTERDEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP -
WIN-WIN - Continually making sure we are comfortable
and doing what is best for all -
& WHERE ALL HAVE A VOICE.

AFTER CAREFUL CONCIDERATION
OUTER MOTIVATIONS
CAN BE BOILED DOWN TO:
SHAME,
BLAME, & FAME
& they always backfire on us - even if we do things it comes with baggage.
BULLY BEHAVIORS
THAT PROCLAIM TO BE
GOOD FOR YOU...
WHILE THEY MANIPULATE YOU WITH YOUR OWN FEAR IS TOTALLY COUNTER PRODUCTIVE.

BEHAVIORISM FLURISHED
IN THE INDUSTRAIL AGE
WHERE BEHAVIORISM RULED
WITH AN IRON FIST.
SEE: THE ART OF DISARMING
THE BULLY
WITHIN & AROUND US
WE ARE MOVING ON...
TO HUMANITARIANISM -
where we all have a voice for PEACE
in the
INFORMATION & COLLABORATION AGE.


Kung Fu &
Iguana Therapy:
The 7 Miracles
That Birthed Transparenting

Future glimpses of Transparenting..

The evolution is being empathized!

It's hip and sexy
to care!

Blessings Be..
so be the blessing
and so it is.

Another wonderful eye opening movie is:

"What The Bleep Do We Know?"

It gives scientific proof through Quantum Physics
that we are able to choose what we create by how we
think & live.


Do yourself a favor and see the latest
NEW THOUGHT movie...
Check out: The Secret
What we believe is possible
makes it possible.
Trusting our heart and keeping the feeling of what we want to attract flowing knowing, seeing, and being it into reality.

See it,
Free it,
Be it...
& Watch it
Come Alive!

All solutions are made known to us as we RELAX & allow our inspiration to lead the way!

Learning & healing the way the body and brain learn
& heal naturally... now it the time to see
it is our choice.


It is time to motivate from the inside out -
to cultivate inner discipline and how to be a leader who leads with humor that is kind and inspires all around them to lead from the back... transparenting.

FOCUSED FAMILY TIME:
Do yourself a favor... have your family watch the Dog Whisperer on the National Geographic Channel
TOGETHER.

THEN DISCUSS IT AS A FAMILY -
AND MAY FIND THAT EVERYONE TALKING TOGETHER
AND ESPEICALLY TEENS RESPOND WHEN WE ARE MODELING "CALM ASSERTIVE BEHAVIOR"
IN THE LEADERSHIP ROLES
& THIS IS SOMETHING
THAT HEALS THE WHOLE FAMILY.
THIS IS ANOTHER WAY TO DESCRIBE....
TRANSPARENTING

Contact Aliah with your questions about
Transparenting Tools, Trainings, or Playshops - as well as
Individual Consulting & Quantum Learning Sessions.

INTERDEPENDENT CO-CREATIVE EDUCATION -
a peace education that is learned peacefully -
an idea who's time has come.

INTEREST CENTERED EDUCATION...
letting student lead by interests - that they report back to their peers.
THE ART OF RESEARCH & PRESENTATION

A Teacher can change a life forever...
when they support inner visions.

For those who are teachers
or working with kids:
here's some current
INNER-DIRECTED OPTIMAL LEARNING
transparenting concepts that have been used in classes from K-9 - as well as with adults - and every age group responded well as it was adapted to their interests.
Be sure to adapt it to the age group by putting it in a language that makes sense to them.

Especially, the amazing results from
The Friendship Circle
a conflict-resolution method that used with students K-9th grade. Every age group responded positively
and the stories will be in Aliah's dissertation:
HOLISTIC BRAIN BASED EDUCATION through
VIBRATIONAL MEDICINE,
SUPERFOOD NUTRITION,
& COCREATIVE ARTS & upcoming Transparenting books.

A few suggestions:
1. Discover the many ways to be intelligent.

2. Ask yourself - who has the attention deficit with ADD -?
Is it the parents, teachers, peers,siblings or one's diet?
3. Kids have a great imagination -
they don't need lies to enrich it.
Let them make up stories.
This means NO lies while still appreciating the story of Santa,
the Easter Bunny, or Tooth fairy.
Instead get them to imagine with you
and keep the heart connection with NO LIES!

4. THE NO SPANKING LAW -
ITS ABOUT TIME!
"This is gonna hurt me
more than it hurts you."
That's just a really big lie.
 No, it hurts us both..
and it creates huge disconnects,
and leaves behind mistrust, confusion,
and dysfunctional behaviors.
When the ones who are meant to care for you, hurt you - and tell you it's meant to help you.. or to
"Just get over it!" this is what makes people confused
as to what is good for them or not.

5. Simply said - if you want honesty,
be honest.

6. Keep in mind that kids
(and all others) deep down
DO want what IS best for themselves.
When we fear that they don't know
what that is -
we are embracing our fear
not our love.

7. Allow kids to show emotions naturally because they choose to -
not because they are told to
give someone they have just met a hug - relative or not.
Honesty must be kind and empowering
and it is to be kept sacred.. always.
Anything else creates heart disconnects.

8. Self Empowerment happens when they follow through on their own goals.. and they know they did well - you don't have to tell them again & again. Ask them how it feels to have done well and show that you respect them for it.

9. Support them in finding and following through on their own goals.
Inner Directed understandings builds
self-discipline for follow through and brilliance happens... and that builds
real self-esteem.

 
Coming soon:
3 Focuses for On-line Sojournals
RENEWAL
isness vision questing

What is it that allows us to be
attracted
to what's good for us & what keeps us from it?
RELATIONSHIPS
inner home alchemy


How can I heal my heart
of past
memories and
be more
open to love?
PROSPERITY
home life prosperity

How can I have prosperity
in my
life & work
and have them be in harmony?


SEEK THE
FUNNY VIEW
THAT GROWS KINDNESS...

LET
KINDNESS
RULE!
Kinesthetic 
Interdependent
Neurological
Development
Naturally
Evolving 
 Sensitive
Solutions

PRACTICE INTENTIONAL ACTS OF EVOLUTIONARY COMEDY &
THE ART OF KINDNESS!

TRANSPARENTING...
IS GETTING OUT OF THE WAY KNOWING
& GROWING THE FUNNY PERSPECTIVES
THAT LEADS US TO KINDNESS.

Right now our world is changing...
one awakening at a time.

Slowly we are stepping out of "the blur lifestyle"
and taking back our life with KINDNESS -
as each person takes a step towards
LIFELONG LEARNING
& ERGONOMIC WELLNESS
the planet shines a bit more brightly.


peace