1. Sharing
Healthy Abundance
Learning to share, is a
really tough concept if there's not enough to go around.
A feeling of abundance comes
from our basic needs being met
& balancing that with
an understanding of how ones needs may impact others around them.
Abundance starts with kids
with food because it's such a basic survival thing.
As we grow we understand
abundance in all of life means knowing things will be OK, no matter what
happens,
and that you know you can
make the best of what ever happens.
Unfortunately, a sense of
lack may be further emphasized by the constant financial struggle,
forcing teachers (&
parents) to do snack rationing, & sometimes with the least expensive
snacks available.
Unhealthy snacks have been
shown to create health & behavior problems. It's a lot harder to deal
with kids who are eating foods that get their their natural energy flow
thrown off by it and perhaps, due to lack of real nutrition,
leave them still feeling
hungry. Kids need to feel abundant in the safe place that school becomes
for them,
and using the valuable time
spent at school, to learn L.I.F.E. skills that will empower them for the
rest of their lives.
Further establishing
an already great routine with 1) inexpensive baking projects that could
become part of a "whole snack experience" that the the class can co-create
& 2) More bulk buying of ingredients & healthy snack choices.
A special treat would also incorporate many opportunities for learning
measurements, as well as learning other cooking skills. Many kids love
to bake & there are ways to incorperate it into learning a variety
of aspects in math, science, & nutrition, let alone a more whole approach
to the snack experience.
As an example: If
organic carrot pieces & nutritonally seasoned popcorn (for instance)
are left out continuously, for the kids to eat as they feel it, as well
as a special treat that's made with who ever wants to help make it.
A possible special treat:
sprouted grain bread that they sprout & grind themselves,
& then add a fillings
of their choice; nuts, raisins, jelly... etc.This can even further create
a feeling of abundance, and making them feel more safe about this issue,
as well as feeling more self-reliant, from helping to make it.
2. Empowering
Safety Awareness
If we
go back far enough, we are all tribal people.
It seems that living in
today's world as little nuclear families has isolated us all to some degree,
especially single parents. In tribal communities, interdependence skills
happened naturally when kids were looked after by people they already trusted,
because they had known them all their lives. They were brought together
with other kids they also had known all their life's, to learn the ways
of their people, together, because it was best for everyone. It wasn't
that long ago & perhaps in small towns still, if both parents need
to work, perhaps a close friend of the family, or a Grandparent, &/or
other relatives look after the children. However, today's kids are
forced to learn these life skills, & especially socialization skills,
simotainously, with dealing with the necessary circumstances of spending
all day (or most of the day, as the case may be) away from their parents,
and this gets even more so, when there's been separated &/or divorced
parents. No matter how lovingly it's done, these circumstances do
create "abandonment issues" that need to be consciously addressed, in order
to help the kids heal themselves of this feeling and not be too eager for
the wrong kind of attention. For most of us trust issues are complicated,
but especially for today's child, and especially regarding strangers. They
need to be aware of their own safety at a much younger age than ever, and
it's important that this be taught in an empowering way. That way it doesn't
leave an over hanging fear, that everyone around them, could be a stranger
that could hurt them. Instead, they are being guided to trust their
own instincts about this, as well as being taught to be aware of, &
continually valuing their own intuitions about all issues in their lives.
This skill is something that's somewhat instinctual however, honoring it
in our society today, is not always the norm, so for people of all ages,
as well as children, it
needs to be a learned (or re-learned) thing.
3.
Communication & Negotiation Skills
A feeling of well being
& safety, comes through being given many creative choices & gaining
more abilities to do things for themselves while being supported, if need
be. Through consciously dealing with tough issues, ones that they (we)
have no real control over, we are meeting deeper needs of instilling interdependent
communication skills, allowing kids to negotiate for their needs, in all
interactions, for the rest of their lives. Communication has a real value
and through empowering the kids to say what they feel & communicate
to another kid themselves when there is conflict, allows the child to feel
the power of consciously communicating. As we allow the children
to engage with teachers & parents, in the process of negotiating, when
it concerns them, if there are changes needing to be considered. This sense
that those in charge are really out for their best interest, is something
that continually creates an atmosphere of good flow around a child.
Incorporating the children's comments into the activity, makes it personal
to them. Being flexible to their reasoning and modeling thinking things
through teaches them to do the same. Monitoring our own feelings
continually learning to express them in a more constructive way, we see
the kids start to do the same among their peers, seeing them taking turns
and making compromises to accommodate others needs besides their own.
By allowing them to be part of the process, through negotiations (&/or
re-negotiations as the case may be) until everyone feels like a good descion
was made, or at least understands why it was made.
As we are reasonable, they
learn to be reasonable.
Possible activities: Play acting, writing stories & poetry, dancing, singing songs anything is possible in the "Sharing Circle"
4. Trust
Through Interdependence
For a healthy interdependent
view of life, a child needs to be empowered with three important trust
concepts: a feeling of "being safe", a feeling of "being abundant" and
a feeling of "being self-confident of the unique creative efforts they
have to offer this world". Interdependence happens naturally as we
take care of these three aspect of trust. Trust grows naturally with this
interdependent approach of cooperative disciplining. As a child begins
to trust this inside themselves, they get a feeling that it will all work
out & are guided to somehow to make the best of what ever happens.
Then, we can start to see the child being aware of the interdependent balance
of both contributing to the group & appropriate self-expression, in
a way they feel comfortable. If we are taught at such a young age,
to both take care of our needs
& the needs of our friends
in an interdependent way...
these life skills can dramatically
alter the child's whole life for the better, as well as, whole families.
Interdependence is balancing their own needs with the needs of their classmates
& teachers, they will then take these skills into family life &
social situations in the future.
Trust activities: Simply
taking turns fairly... showing (& explaining as it happens so they
understand) that it's more fun to include rather than exclude everyone.
How to speaking up when you feel something, saying it in an appropriate
way because you care about the other person(s) involved in conflicts as
they come up.
When some trust has built
up, then falling backwards into the hands of the adults with the other
kids
catching them as they fall.
Make sure they are safe & this is a big trust builder.